The other night, we were in a restaurant having a really nice dinner out, with my father / the kid’s Papa. We had been having a great time together all day, and it just continued through dinner. So as the 7 of us were gathered around the table, we chatted and laughed about whatever happened to come up.
Now, you need to know that my father is literally deaf in one ear, and can hardly hear out of the other.
So there was one specific conversation we were having, to which the topic eludes me, but it is irrelevant. Whatever it was, our son, {S}, responded excitedly with a suggestion that has become very regular from him: “Oh!! MAMA!! I have a good idea! You can take a photo and blog about it!”. His eyes were wide with excitement over his grand idea. To which my father chuckled and said, “Oh yeah? You want to take a photo, and brag about it, huh?”…..as he continued to cut up his prime rib.
Correcting what my father had heard, I said to him….”No Dad. He said BLOG about it.”
Dad (speaking 1/2 to himself I think) said, “OOhhhhh. I don’t know much about computers. So he said ‘blog’ about it. I see. I thought he said ‘brag’ about it.”
Wanting to make him feel better, I quickly replied, “That’s ok Dad. It’s kind of the same thing.” And then my husband and I busted out laughing hysterically for a good couple of minutes, some tears and all.
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We found such humor in my quick response, because sometimes blogging can so often come across as bragging. Can’t it? Especially when it is blogging parents. Don’t ALL parents, find themselves a little proud of their children, now and then? Be it of their accomplishments, a circumstance, compassion for others, progress with this or that, creations they made, or just the kind of little people they are evolving into? I think some sense of pride is born in all parent’s hearts, right long with their children’s naked little bodies slipping into the world.
We are, indeed, blogging parents. Our posts are often about our children. I think when you are a home schooling family, and the teacher of your children, the risk of appearing to brag is at a whole new level, sometimes before you even open your mouth. But there are such joys, rewards and pay- offs that come with home schooling especially, that it’s hard not to talk about it. Or blog about it. It’s hard not to share with others what a great job they are doing, if they are. Really knowing the labor that bared the fruit. It’s not about us being such great teachers for them. It’s about having witnessed the details of their progress right along. Every moment, of every day,of it. Remembering when you just presented a particular concept to them. It’s about experiencing it all, with them. Perhaps there were some struggles along the way that they have overcome. Or maybe they are just naturally dang good at one thing or another, and you can’t help but be impressed or awed at all they are capable of.
Being very prideful is a dangerous and sinful thing. Bragging is just as bad. I am sure any loving parent falls into that trap now and then. But the truth is…..these feelings many of us express are not necessarily always being proud, and bragging about it. It is not as if our kids are THE smartest kids in the whole entire world, nor the most talented and amazing. I know for us, what may look like excessive pride, is actually a feeling of being VERY PLEASED with how hard the kids work, and the progress we get to witness and acknowledge every day. To be a PART of it. It’s about feeling so BLESSED, and HAPPY….at the opportunity of watching our kids grow, loving to learn, and teaching US quite a bit along the way!
It’s about GRATITUDE to God, for trusting us with these beautiful little beings, to raise them to be faithful servants, and hopefully return to live with Him eternally, in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Yeah….it may look like pride and bragging sometimes. But generally, it’s not. (Not that we NEVER have. lol) For us, talking /typing about our kids and this and that, is just reviewing blessings and all there is to be grateful for. And hopefully encouraging others to do the same. So please excuse us if it ever seems we brag. We only mean to blog…about the blessings and joys of our every day. Our kids just happen to bring a lot of that to light, a lot. : ) Children have a way of doing that. Don’t they?
I have to say….I thought this conversation we had with my Dad was timely, because there have been a few posts that have been ready to post here on the blog, but that I have been putting off a little. They are just about the kid’s schooling, and some of the subjects and school excercises that they have joyfully embraced, or accomplishments that were big for them, in which they surprised even themselves. (With lots of photos, OF course. : ) But they are hard to share, review in words, or express the story of, without it seeming like bragging. But…we guess those who are going to see any of it as bragging, are going to anyway! Whether we say “We’re not!”, or not! Right? And likely, it’s really about them, and not us anyway. So we are putting that little fear aside, and will be blogging with those posts next.
NOW….enough about US. (Hey, it our blog you know. lol. ) We thought we would share a photo that is all about YOU!! This pretty bowl sits on the shelf of my computer work area, and every time a comment comes in from you, I throw your name in there! Maybe AGAIN….maybe for the FIRST TIME. But you never know…it just may be the name we pull for Our First Give-Away! We are more excited every day!! We can’t wait to make someone’s day, with the handmade gifts we are making just-for-you!!! Talk about FUN!!!
I don’t see you “bragging” in your blog at all. I see you sharing about what you and your family are doing and what’s happening in your lives. I like what you described here about feeling pleased, blessed, and gratitude to God. That’s what I see you doing. My family comes from a background of very humble people. The word “proud” was never used. At one of our reunions before grandma died (dad’s mom), she said this to all of us: “I don’t want to say I’m proud, but I’m very thankful to be part of this family.” You could just see her beaming with pride, but she just couldn’t say it because it’s a sin to be “prideful.” Although, I think being “prideful” and being “proud” are two different things.
Oh, fun! Adding my name in again to that adorable bowl! I readily admit that my blog is a bit braggy, but aren’t we all proud to brag about our kiddos! And I hope they’ll be able to keep it to have for themselves in the future.
Rene-I bet you can imagine my Dad doing this! lol.
Thank you so much for your sweet words, as always!XOXOX to you!!
I could vividly picture the scene with your dad and it had me rolling! Oh, he is just precious. I love that man.
I certainly do not view your blogging as “bragging”. I feel inspired by it, and very very proud of you and the life that you lead. And blessed that you are such a big part of mine!! xoxo
You know Maria, that is so true. Some people do ‘get it’, and some just don’t. I think not even ALL home schoolers get it, but those who home school with the purposes that we do. It takes a certain out look on life, and your family/children, to truly get it. It takes living it, and wanting to live it like that, that is the only way to truly ‘get it’.
For me, the only way I can explain the life style we have chosen for our family here, is ‘a CONSTANT, SIMMERING JOY’ inside. Sometimes, that JOY IS EXPLODING. With either kind, this blog has been a great outlet for us, because dang it, sometimes we just need to let it all out! And it is SO nice, to have some people out there, who just ‘get it’, and are enjoying this journey with us–in their own lives, on their own blogs, and on ours. So thank YOU for your comment, and your visits. Many of you are just an inspiration back, and wonderful companions for the ride. Might I add:
I LOVE MY LIFE!! Thank you Lord, for all of the blessings you have given us, every single day.
This is exactly why I come here to your blog….some people just get it. We are the first on my side of the family(and I’m the youngest of 8!) to homeschool so I do worry that people we know will think I am “bragging” on my blog but it is so much more of exactly what your post is all about. I am so very BLESSED/PROUD/AMAZED to witness it all that I can’t help but want to share it with the world! There is no place I’d rather be!
Sweet story about your dad! I wanted to answer the question you left on my blog about Cursillo. No, I have never made a Cursillo weekend, but I have heard good things about it! I try to go on retreat once per year, so does my dh. Last year, we went on a married couples retreat, which was good. The one I attended a month ago was probably the best I’ve ever attended! Well, I better get to reading the book my kids just picked out. God bless your day!
Very good post. I totally think blogging is a little bit of everything. So many different bloggers out there. Some are good writers…like you folks…some are just goofy like mine.
I LOVE the pics. of your children. Also the fun stuff they do. Do not feel like you are bragging.
Oooooh…I think my name is on top????
I started blogging as an easy way to let Grama know what the kids were doing in homeschool. I also wanted to become a better writer. That part of the plan didn’t work, but it has kept Grama in the loop. You know I haven’t blogged much recently, but I will, someday. And then it will be all about the kids!